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24 Aug 2007

Bipolar 10 year girlfriend
Really need help here , Firstly i suffer from Bilopar and yes i give her a hard time when i am on my downers . so why does she not want to let go , sometimes i think she is just waiting to have another person before letting me go .

My girlfriend and I have been having some problems the last 9 months the following has happened and would like some feed back
Dec fighting did not spend any time with each other at all
Jan/Feb I was doing a lot of traveling so was not home every night
March we resolved our differences and said we would both work on the relationship, well two or three weeks later I noticed she was very friendly with a male neighbor how lives upstairs in the complex we stayed . After having a huge fight she tells me they were only friends and nothing happened. She showed me the cell account and seen in one night 12 sms’s sent from her to him . Asked her what was this all about and why so late at night as she is always asleep my 22h00 . got an answer that he kept on asking her to come for coffee . so we tried again but this was bugging me as I could see there was something every time he was around she started to avoid him . I never told her to stop . well relationship fell flat by June. Two weeks ago I moved out as things were not working out , I called her a couple of days later and told her I need to hear from her that it is over . She could not and said she still loves me and I must give her time to either say its over or not . I wanted it over in a way but in a way I was hoping to be back with her . Well we being seeing each other for the last week or more . I do not stay over at all . Last night I went passed her place and could see she was acting strange as I sat nest to her cell phone . She tried several times to ge the phone away from me without trying to be obvious that there was something . Well as you know the mind wonders so I picked the phone up and read an sms from a co worker saying sweet dreams I asked her about this and said he is just a friend that’s all and they talk about work . Well on sat past she had a braai at her family and she invited him along (only found out this morning) . I told her I do not believe her so I sent an sms to the number just saying what’s up . reply in 1 min was just leaving the office . 2 mins later a call from him told her to put on to loud speaker if she has nothing to hide. His words were what are you doing , nothing ok would you like to go out got a good time .. she said no as she must pass her folks . that’s when I left . this morning I called her and said why did you not tell him I was there or coming past to show me there is nothing between the two of you . answer was I did not thing about it .

Maybe I am just plain stupid or am I looking at this the wrong way ????
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Sounds like she's really not altogether into you, and maybe you would be wise to move on, without anger or biterness. If the pair of you genuinely want to work things out, do so with the assistance of a proper relationship counsellor.
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