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14 Dec 2009

Boyfriend issues
Dear CS

I have a problem with my boyfriend,if we get into arguments aor dissagreements amd end up angry with each other i find that im always the one who has to go and suck up to him and appologise or try to talk to him so that we can get our relationship on back on track,he never even tries and because of that even when ive done nothing wrong i feel that when i appologise or try to speak to him in his eyes im admitting that i was the one who was in the wrong,i hate fighting and arguing,i feel that i am the one who has to beg in my relationship,yesterday when we argued i just decided to stay in the bedroom and let him have his space and he did his sulking and we havnt spoken till today,what am i doing wrong? how do i deal with this?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

You are NOT "always the one who HAS to " apologise , etc. - you arfe the one who always chooses to do so. You don't have to do so.
And if he is so immature that he never sees any fault in his behaviour, never sees any need to apologise, and expects you to behave in this way - why do you choose to stay in a relationship with such a loser ?
What you are doing wrong is to encourage him to behave badly, and to blame yourself for his bad behaviour and some for which you share responsibility. Move on, find a real man and have a wholesome relationship in which you don't feel the need to beg and grovel
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