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17 Jan 2010

Boyfriend&#39 s blues
Hi
My boyfriend was diagnosed with clinical depression 10 years ago. He was placed on medication and used this for the time it was prescribed.

This was long before we met.
He went to a psychiatrist about 2 years ago when he took up guitar and experienced excessive anxiety when performing.
He was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder and placed on adopax.

He is currently on the medication and I thought in general he was OK. We' ve been together for 4 years and he has never struck me as a liar or chancer. But now he tells me that because of his depression, he sometimes drinks too much and cannot control it.
He also said that due to his depression it is impossible for him to promise me that he won' t drink too much or assure me that he' ll never do anything else that I won' t approve of. Among other things, he cannot assure me that he won' t stray. All due to his depression.

His psychiatrist has not diagnosed him with depression. He will see her again this week. But even if it is depression, does this really mean that he is not responsible for his actions?

Is this possible or am I being had?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Sounds like he needs re-asessment by a proper specialist pychiatrist, and a check on the best diagnosis and treatment. Alcohol is often used by people with depression and/or anxiety disorders as it may feel as though it brings rapid relief - but in fact it worsens the disorders and undermines their proper treatment.
Depression in itself does not make it impossible to control one's behaviour, and especially is unlikely to lead one to stray ( it more often leads to a loss of interest in sex )- one remains responsible for for one's choices and hebaviours
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