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01 Oct 2007

Hi Cyberdoc
I got engaged to the man of my dreams 4 months ago. We were so happy, but last week things started to get a little shaky. On Saturday afternoon we had an argument and he went out with his friends. I went to go look for him much later and caught him kissing another girl. Needless to say I am devastated. We love each other and I know the alcohol played a big part in him cheating. He is now very sorry and is begging me to stay. We are getting married next year and most of the arrangements have been made. I want to make it work, but I don't know how. I cant look at him in the same way. All I see is him and her together. I can forgive him, but how do you move forward? Should we see someone?
I don't want to cancel our wedding and lose him forever, but I don't want to live with this issue for the rest of our lives.

Thanks so much.

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01 Jan 0001

This was a foolish thing for him to do ( drinking much after an argument is rarely a good idea ), but it doesn't have to be seen as a catastrophic act of cheating, to have kissed someone else in this situation. See a relationship / marriage counsellor together, perhaps located through FAMSA< and work on these problems together. Certainly you should see someone, and this would help not merely to solve this present issue, but would help you both to learn how to handle problems much better and more effectively in future
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