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06 Mar 2010

Coming home
Good day! We have, for obvious reasons, decided to exchange the riches and beauty of SA for the windy, financial gloomy landscape of NZ. Yes we are nowhere near the comfort of the ''good life'' we we were used to, but at least we''re relatively safe and our daughter have a better shot at a brighter future. Ok so thing is, I''m very much used to being able to move around and feeling safe where-ever I go here. I read the newspapers (Beeld, 24.com, Rapport and Burger) and feel quite distressed when thinking I have to come back for 5 weeks to visit the family and friends. I am petrified. Here we have the constant fear of earthquakes (we had 3 remarkable ones so far) but frankly, I''ll deal with it. I know CBT well and often use it in my life but I just cannot shake the fear of what if. I have nightmares! The violence . . . the roads . . . I just don''t feel like walking into this death trap! I WILL come . . . I HAVE TO, but shit, I''m scared!
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

OK, frankly SA does indeed fall short on the provision of earthquakes, but I'm sure someone is working on it.
Now, lets think about this calmly. The "deathtrap" you fear is one where apparently you lived for many years and survived it apparently unscathed - except for this degree of fear. You already know how to behave sensibly and avoid significant risks. And you're coming the year of the Soccer World Cup, when the authorities will presumably be trying their best to keep things safe.

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