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28 May 2004

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me and my bfriend have been seeing each other 4 a month now the problm is hes a very jelous type.Last week he beat me 4 not coming over 4 dinner as i have promised,but i did call him and explain that i wont make it.And on monday he nearly beaten me again 4 recieving a phone call from a friend.the real problm is that im really scared 2b around this guy and im not sure if i should end the relationship or what?the other thing is that while he was busy beating me up last week he even pointed a knife at me.Pse help i dont know what 2do.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

GOod day, Lolo,
This guy is an abusive louse, who seems to have the delusion that a woman friend becomes his property, to treat as he wishes ---he will beat you more and more often if you allow him to do so. Cal POWA, which provides direct advice to abused women, and explore with them your options for leaving him safely, and getting a court interdict to forbid him to communicate with you, approach near you or harm or annoy you in any way. If he ignores that, you call the police and he goes to jail. Not only does this route help to protect you, but, if he can learn that beating women is WRONG, you may be saving other women in the future from his ugly attentions.
At a very long stretch of the imagination, possibly one act of violence might arise in a unique;y frustrating situation ( not on such a pathetic excuse as his ) ; but when it's repeated, dump the bum. And do NOT fall for his whining apologies if he tries in that way to lure you back to him.
He WILL harm you, seriously, sooner or later. Staying with him is more dangerous than leaving, but don't just walk out --- discuss it with POWA, have a safe place to go at first, and involve the police and the court interdict, to prevent him from harming you. Even uttering a threat to harm you, is a criminal offence.
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