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18 Sep 2007

Confused and frustrated
th relationship is still not working but you would still like to be friends or somehow part of that persons life... but you know deep down they will wont want to be friends...

I have been dating my BF for 4 and a half years now, we are staying together for 4 years and 5 months of that time....yeah we moved in together a month after we started dating....

We both in our early 20's... I have a job,goals and achivements in my life.... he cannot keep a stable job...his world revolves around me....(yeah i know what guyz are gonna say that we woman are ungrateful) but I am one of those woman who wants a man with his own ambitions and goals....

We met when we were in very needy times in our lives and we needed someone... things progressed into something it should not have and before we knew, we were in a "serious relationship".........

his dad is pressuring me into marriage but I put my foot down.,....I am not ready and besides I just dont feel like he is the one...(I have not told him that)

I know his not happy himself, he hardly smiles these days.....Before we end up hating each other and the relationship just falls aprt totally I need to take a step back and get out....

But I don't know how to tell him... I dont want to break up with him I just need some breathing space.... I feel sooo choked my relationship it does not feel like a relationship anymore it feels like a job..........
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

There's no magic solution to msituations like this other than for the pair of you to sit down and talk it through, with the help of a relationship counselor if necessary
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