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19 Sep 2007

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Dear Dr.

I just going to cut into the chasse. my boyfriend and have been going out for two yrs, and we have been staying together for 1 yr.
the main reason i moved in with me was because my sister and I had a huge fight and we are not getting along in general and she kicked me out of her ouwn place and i've only be in CT for 3 yrs now, i don't have any friend in Cape Town because if i'm not at work i'm at shcool on weekends, i don't have time for friends and my boyfriend has been with me all the way, but on weekends he becomes a totaly diffrent person, he leaves me sometimes the whole weekend and does not call and come back home, and when i confront him, why he didn't come home and call me about he is where about's the only responce i get is ''i don't know'' in numerous occasions i got that responce.

last weekend friday he told me that he needs to spend time with his uncle he is in town for that day and the next day we is leaving, i agreed to that, but his uncle was delayed and he come to fatch him at 00:30 just after midnight, and when i asked him if he leaving at this time when is he comming back, and told me that they are going to the guaradge to buy ''dasher'' and he left and came back at 05:00 in the morning, when we woke up i asked him why did he lied to me he told me that i made him lie to me because i was drunk but only had two savanna's.

That Saterday morning we were suppose to go and do grccessy and pay rent, but when i asked him when are we leaving because the bank closes early on Saterday he told me that he is not going with me, and he can not spend the whole day with me because he is not happy around me, so i insisted to go with him anyway and eventually we didn't. but i told myself that where ever he goes i'm going with him i don't care where i'll be stuck by his side i don't even care if he does not want me to.
angrelly he saw that i'm not about to leave his site today he said come lets go, and we went to the worst place ever where i was the only lady, with the bunch of drunk ppl in the Township. and afetr that we relocated to one of his ''hot spot''
i didn't complain all the way i just followed his lead.

round about 16:00 we went him accompanied by one of his friends, and wheni got upstairs i was busy on the phone with my mother and he went outside, and that was the last i saw of him. he came back on Sunday night drunk, didn't call or apologies for his act,
we havn't spokedn since Saterday morning until now:(
this is killing me,
should i confront him about he is wher about's even thought i know that answer to that, or should i wait for his ego to come down so that he can explain himself? i can not move out because we both sign lease and its one bedroom we staying in, and the leas is expiring in Dec. and we pay half rent each, so even if i leave and find another place formay self i'm oblidge to pay my rent still and i can not afford to pay rent to a place that i don't even stay at,

please...please..please help me i'm really confused,
if he does not love me whay doesn't he just tell me straight, so that i won't inter fere in his life again?
i'm really confussed
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Not really a question for a Psychiatrist, but I'm confident that some of our other readers will be able to give useful advice
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