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24 Jan 2006

CS you are right thanks
hi CS thanks for the advice. you are right in that i must just let hubby try and patch things up his way. its not that i was expecting him to say sorry or anything. i think what i really wanted was for him to realise that i cannot simply launch myself into his new plans of Our Great New Life as i still feel damaged by the old meds. its hard for me as a woman (we all know women need emotional security) to jump ahead with the new sex life (which i am all for by the way, but not ready for it just yet), when i still feel hurt by how he disrespected me and treated me badly during the old meds period. i'm just hoping this makes sense to you doc! how must i move thru this past? i do believe he has changed but now i am still left feeling hurt?
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cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

It all makes loads of sense. Part, maybe all, of wat was so objectionable to you in the past, may have been due to his unpleasant reaction to the old meds, and not necessarily an expression of his true opinions or true basic personality. If that's so, then reform would be rapid, as without those meds to react to so badly, he may be geninely better now. Counselling would be the best arena in which to explore how hurt you very understandably feel, and for you to help him to understand the situation --- sometimes when one is mildly toxic from an unpleasant reaction to the drugs, not only is one irritable and nasty, but one may not remember it well afterwards when the drugs change
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