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01 Oct 2007

Dear CS or anyone that can help
I have a 18 year old friend(girl) that needs help badly. I tried speaking to my shrink but he just said she must see someone. But she just closes down when she does, so it doesnt help at all. Is there any place i can look up ways to help her. She does listen to me for some strange reason. But to no one else. She mentioned her fathers suicide. She is drinking everyday to get past the pain. She allows strange guys to buy her alcohol. She was drugged a month ago. But we were lucky that a friend saw him carry her out and called me. She is on a one way road to trouble. And i am desperate to help her in any way i can.

So if anyone knows what i can do, please let me know.
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01 Jan 0001

She really must see someone, and can't expect to get helped somehow by remote control. If she finds it difficult when she first meets a shrink ( it obviously will get much easier after the start of the first session ), then she should write down a summary of her problems and issues ( not too long, but not too cryptic and brief ) and take this with her when she does see a shrink. With the sort of problems you describe, she cannpt be helped by a lay person like you, even with the best will in the world. MAybe she can ask the shrink if you can sit in with her in the first session, to help her to express herself. Be aware, also, that her complaint of not being able to talk about it, is very commonly used as an excuse by someone who is rather enjoying some aspects of their problem, and has no real intention of seriously trying to change. Until they really sincerely want to change and are prepared to work hard at it, they can't be helped
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