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04 Nov 2008

Desperate
Hi all

Need assistance....

I have been married for seven years with two children now. I am 25yrs old and i am overweight.

I met my husband after matric and got married the next year, I was not overweight then (I was slightly chubby - 18 years and weighing 75kg).

Two kids later I was at my biggest 115kg!!!!! Since July I have lost and now weigh 101kg. My problem is my husband, i need honest advise.

He wants me to be thin......
He does not want a fat wife, he says it make me look old and he cant go out with an old person, he is too young for that (he is 34). We do not go any where together unless church, or a function that is compulsory and even then he is not comfortable. Everyday he reminds me of it and he remarks to it all the time. I cannot even say a thing in the house with out it being mentioned.

I admit I am too young to be this weight or this size but is it justified for him to be so harsh?

I want to loose weight and look good but I am now miserable. I am not happy at all in my marriage, I just pretend at work just to keep up pretences.

What do i do? do I move back home with my mom or do I continue in this manner?

Need serious help ladies........
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

You are 25, HE is 34, and thinks YOu are old ? As he wories so about your appearance, must we assume that he is a Greek God of amazing beauty ? The best reason for losing the extra weight is for ghealth benefits and too feel better about yourself --- see a good local dietician, maybe even a counsellor to help you get more motivated and stick to the diet and exercise program. Do this for you. Maybe some mariage counselling sessions also, could help him understand how unhelpful and unfair his whining can be
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