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24 Oct 2006

Distance over holidays
Hi doc

I am scared for this coming christmas holidays... I am a university student and met someone recently. We are both crazy about each other and love each other very much.
I am scared that things will not be the same when we return after the 2 months vac. What can I do during the vac to avoid this?
Please!
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Maybe they will, maybe they won't. Don't catastrophize or make things worse than they need to be. If you bopth actually do care about each other, you can each go home, have a good break, and return to uni and the relationship afterwards. If things are not the same, maybe they're not meant to be the same. Don't be too possessive, but arange to call each other OCCASIONALLY ( not obsessively ) and keep mild contact. A true relationship doesn't need incessant contact.
And your later comment explains a lot --- you feel you don't deserve such a good elationship, and are thus somewhat expecting it to end. Be wary of creating self-fulfilling prophecies. Take it easy and things are likely to work out
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