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15 Apr 2003

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Hi all,

My husband and I have been together for 15 years but have been "separated" for the last year. We sill live in the same house but in separate bedrooms. I found out last night that he has found someone "special" in his life and even though I thought I would be able to handle the inevitable, it has hit me like a ton of bricks. I suppose I now need to get the ball rolling and end this fiasco a.s.a.p. What I need to know is does it make a difference who initiates divorce proceedings with regards to getting what is rightfully mine? Where do I start?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Dear Bugs,
maybe other readers may know, from their personal experiences, but this is really a legal question, and best answered by getting Thee to a lawyer for a consultation to work out exactly those issues.
The "living together but emotionally separated" model you've been trying, sounds awfully civilized, but only works so long as there are no real people actually involved ( maybe you could get away with it while playing The Sims ). As soon as you found how badly you felt when you learned that he was seeing someone else, seriously ; this revealed that you two have not been emotionally separated yet, as well as not legally so.
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