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11 Jan 2006

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I am 22yrs young and i 1st talked about my abuse when i was 20, my aunt is a social worker and she never said anything ,then i told my mum and she also kept quiet. The animal who did those terrible things to me is my cousin and i still see him at some of the family gatherings i attend. i dont hate him cause im not that type of person and i forgave him a long time ago cause i know he doesnt deserve any space in my mind. a lot of the time im fine but sometimes when having sex with my fiance i just burst out in tears, my fiance knows about what happened and he supports me very much. now i have never been for any councelling and i dont think i will ever go until someone in my family gives me support, cause right now it seems as though they dont understand, or they dont believe me. its gotten to a point where i dont tell anyone how i feel and just shutting them out. i often find myself falling for much, much older men, and i was a bit premiscuous as a late teen. could my abuse have anything to do with they way i seem to push people out of my life or am i just a bad person.

another thing i just found out that im pregnant.
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01 Jan 0001

YOu have the ight appoach in not allowing him to waste any space in your mind. But I do think you ought to go for some counselling, whether or not anyone in your family give you support --- probably even more so if they don't. They weren't abused, you were. One thing is absolutely for certain, you are NOT a bad person. A perod of promiscuity is quite common among people who were abused when younger.
You and chubby cheks need to remember that while other people may or may not reject you if you talk to THEM about experiences of abuse --- no counsellor will ever do so, so that fear is inappropriate as a reason for not seeking counselling
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