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30 Oct 2008

Family issues...
My son just turned 10. I have a niece –  11 yrs, and nephew -17 years, both do not have parents. I have been taking care of them for the past six years. I would have loved to stay with my son, but I feel that they will feel excluded and is cost effective for me to support them with my Mom. I cant do anything for my son without including my niece, kinda twins for me. Visit me during school holidays, organizes their birthday parties every year, their school needs, etc!

I have an elder sister who goes home at least once in a year. She doesn’ t make any contribution at home (at least buy niece/nephew clothes or school things)! Me and my sister do not see eye to eye, in many issues and I have learned to live with that fact and my Mom and brother knows.

It was my son’ s birthday celebration this past weekend. I didn’ t buy my niece new clothes as I didn’ t buy my son’ s during her birthday, which was in August. My brother receives a call from my sister asking why I didn’ t buy my niece new clothes. Apparently my Mom reported that…  I was so surprised cos during her birthday my son didn’ t have new clothes! I was so hurt and angry at my Mom…  I have never done anything for my son without including her (niece) and if my Mother doesn’ t realize that, then I don’ t know. How can she call my sister to report that when she was there and knew what happened during her birthday!!! My brother was just surprised… 

She (Mother) then apologized.

Now I have taken a decision to take my son next year. My brother says that it seems I have not forgiven my mom but I think it is time for all of us (siblings) take care of other kids that do not have parents. It is like they are all my kids cos I have been doing everything for them. It was not an easy decision but I have to do it.

I will continue supporting them at home but I feel that I have been depriving my son of motherly love when no one appreciate that! I know it is gona look like I am abandoning them eventho it isn’ t like that.

Just wanted to share… .
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