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03 Feb 2006

Family messed up my life
Was abused by my two elder brothers when my mum found out i was told its my fault and held responsible for it never told a soul about it though the abuse carried on for a few years however because of it i have never been able to build relationship nor able to communicate with anybody usually bottling everything up in mytwenties and not sure what to do anymore as i cant face going out nor socialising even making friends is difficult
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Sadly, it's not uncommon for a mother to prefer not to believe that abuse is taking place, and to thus disbelieve a victim. It is an unjustifiable and horrible thing for her to do. But while it might be fair to decide that it would be hard to trust your mother again, it is going further than you need, to decide not to trust anyone. What will help you is to see a good local counsellor, preferably someone practising CBT-style counselling, and work through this and set yourself free from being tied to the sad events of the past, free to communicate enjoyably with others, and to enjoy making friends
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