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16 Jan 2006

Feeling so guilt - Parent
I feel so guilty about my children. I feel like I might be failing them somehow (spending time with them, protecting them etc.) I always worry whether I'm giving them enough attention and giving them equal amount of attention. I feel guilty that I had them close together (about 18 months apart). When I was pregnant people drilled it into my ear that what happened was not good for the older baby. Some said it's not good for the younger.

I have molested as a child so everyday I worry if I'm doing enough to protect them. At the end of the day there is always a loophole as I can't be with them 24X7 (I need to work).

On the other hand I feel bad that I've fallen behind my peers - career wise.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

You can never spend enough time or protect enough to avoid all possibilities of feeling gilty when you're really in the mood to feel guilty. You are doing a great job in caring for them, and the guilt is a waste of energy betwe spent on yourself and on them. Everything is needed in moderation --- being with them 24X7 isn't a great idea and can cause different problems. You're doing well. Keep it up
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