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30 Jan 2006

First Holy Communnion
If you are Roman Catholic you'd know how important this day is.

G's daughter's is this year. Last year with the son's if was big drama (the mother who left kidz when youngest was 14 months wanted to have a party together g's parents said they will not be attending so all his sisters and family) it ended that we made the clothes and I made the moerse luncheon with his sister's help. All went fine.

Now we hear rumors (from the kids) that the mother wants to make the dress and shoes and ect for HER daughter.She even send g an sms saying she'll dress HER daugher not YOUR MOTHER OR YOUR GIRLFRIEND. Well he laughed at this as his mother has already made a dress and also it's our weekend so where is she going to get her daugher to dress?

Then he phones me just now saying she phoned and she wants to have her sister make the dress and she'll buy the shoes etc...we'll I just lost it because his parents are already so bitter due to many years of this woman always getting her way and and and. Las time they said they will not attend and not help with the flowers or the cooking or be at the party should she and her family be involved. They can go to church if they want to no one can stop them, but that's it.

Im so pissed because I thought we agreed on this ? Im so pissed because I KNOW he's mother will be greatly hurt and all the WORK i've done to mend their retionship will go down the drain!

What do you suggest i do ?
Feel like right now stop being mrs. nice and tell him get your x to pick up HER kids from school HER 4year old from cresche, bath them, feed them, do home work etd...and just having a lekker everning with Ne not worrying about HIS kids whom I always care about so much.....

How can he do this ? He'll break his mother's heart and his sister's the sunday school teacher and it's a dress she also wore....like a family tradition.....

He's parents always said this woman has mutie over him......I just feel how can he laught and agree and joke with me and then tell her she can make the dress ?

Dankie almal

O ja just the flowa's last time was R2500 it's like a wedding the arrangements are huge...
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

is it really YOUR job to mend THEIR relationships ? Why can't the famil;y go ahead as planned, and the mother ( such as she is ) can organize a local party for the girl, wearing any dress she pleases, on the next weekend when the girl is with her ?
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