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09 Jun 2004

Forever and Ever?
I really dont know how to put this question forward, but anyway here is my attempt...

I have been spending alot of time with this guy who is absolutely incredible, we go to parties and we became extremely close. However this closeness is projecting a different vide as to the closeness between just two friends. The things he says and does for me and the small gifts I get... I know that I am falling for him in a big way and is trying everything possible to avoid that.

The problem though is that this amazing gentleman is however involved with a woman older than him since he was 16 years old and have been together for 17 years, he is now 33 years old and myself 26... and even though he tells me and refers to me as his friend everything else tells me that he wants to be more than his friend by the way he holds me when we dance the way he looks at me and hold my hand when we walk and when he presses his face against mine when he whispers something in my ear... He tells me I am his inspiration and wants us to be the way we are forever and I dont know what we are... To him we are friends but it cant be, not if we act the way we do, it makes me question as to whether I am imagining things or whether its just wishful thinkin.

I also wondered whether it could be that he is looking for that romantic feeling or is being seduced by teh idea of being with me considering his current relationship and his so called experience in love.

Is he maybe slowly but surely being seduced and is busy falling for me cause at the moment nothing has happened but things are getting quite intense and it messes up my mind and my heart...

Please help...
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Hi COol Aid,
You know, sometimes the effort and work required to find the right way to ask the question, and indeed to discover the right question to ask, is the most useful part of the exercise.
It sounds to me as if what he wants to continue forever, is his romantic relationship with the other person, and a non-romantic friendship with you.
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