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28 Jan 2006

Found this gem in the archives
Subject: This 1 is 4 d ladies (From woman to woman)

Posted by: 555


Stop believing that every man loves you simply because he says he does. When it's convenient for him, he acts like he does. Awards are given every year for the best actor/actress award. Just add his name to the nominations.

Stop believing that you can change him... You can't. He has to change and want to change first and foremost.

Stop thinking that because you caught him in a major lie and he cried and told you how much he loves you that he won't do it again, because he will.

Stop trying to catch your man cheating when you know when you do catch him, YOU'RE NOT GOING TO LEAVE HIM ANYWAY. So what's the purpose in knowing? At least ignorance truly is bliss.

Stop busting out all the windows in his damn car just because you caught him cheating AGAIN. You're going to stay with him and now you have to drive him around until he gets his car fixed. Or you will end up "loaning" him the money to get it fixed, or helping him put plastic up to the windows until they are fixed.

Stop lying to your girls about how wonderful he is. We already know he ain't nothing. More than likely he's already pushed up on one of them, but for your sake we keep quiet. If he's so wonderful we will see that even if you never say a word.

Stop lying to yourself about how wonderful he is. Accept the fact that you love his trifling behind and keep it moving.

Stop believing he's going to leave his wife for you. She's the wife for a reason and you're the other woman for a reason.

Stop thinking that he's going to make you his wife. So what you've been with him 2,3,4,5 or more years. Once he's done playing with you he will take the next woman that he's dating and make her his wife in 6 months to a year, while you've wasted how many years trying to get wifey status? While you're doing so much for him trying to please him, he's doing all the things you wish he would do with another.

Every time you take him back after you've caught him lying and cheating, he loses more respect for you. Get caught lying or cheating once and see how quick he leaves you without even considering taking you back, and have you replaced before you finish begging his forgiveness!

Stop thinking that because the brother has money he's going to spend it on you. Get your own money then it won't matter if he does or doesn't.

Stop thinking you're the main woman when if you really looked at all the signs and signals you would realize you're the other woman.

Stop introducing every joker you meet to your kids. Even your kids will stop respecting you eventually.

Stop giving more of yourself to a man than he's willing to give to you. And for goodness sake quit believing his lies of being hurt before so now he's afraid to trust again, which is why he just can't give of himself.

Once again the best actor award goes to........

Alright ladies very important.... Stop just taking him at his word when he gives you some fantasy tale. Every now and then ask for proof. Be careful of the smoke screen that he will hit you with. He will catch an attitude, act insulted, might even pretend to be mad. It's all a smoke screen after all the theatrics still insist on the proof. For example, he hasn't called in 3 days because he was on the moon for work. A'ight. Insist on seeing something from the moon.

Men will not respect us if we don't respect ourselves. They will use us up. They will tell us all we need to hear and feed on every insecurity and low self-esteem issue we've ever had, just to get what they want when they want it. Those are not the women they make their wives. Those are not the women they respect.



Date: 22/11/2004


Posted by: Cybershrink


Well worth re-reading and thinking about, and as Shaun says, it actually applies to people of all genders.

Date: 22/11/2004
Answer 314 views

01 Jan 0001

Aah, we're still going, and still sensible, after all these years !
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