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07 Jun 2004

friend thinking of suicide
hi,i have a good friend of mine whose thinking of killing herself she just found out that her boyfriend of two years is cheating on her, shes in a horrible state and cant even concentrate on her school work any more she has lost interest in alot of things we did together all she talks about lately is killing herself i tried talking to her about seeing someone to help her deal with this but she just refused ,i tried talking to her but it seems like im talking to myself she doesnt want her mom to know because her mom isnt well and says that she doesnt want to burden her mom with her problems.pls help as i dont know what to do anymore.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Hi nthabi,
Remind her that if her mom is so ill she doesn't want to burden her with simply hearing that her daughter has some problems, can't she imagine what an aeful burden it would be to her mother if her daughter killed herself ?
I understand that she feels very upset --- in ones first few romances, it seems even more drastic to lose a bf than when one gets a bit more experience and perspective. But I am sure beyond any possible doubt that he isn't worth it, and that she is much better off without someone who cheats. I agree with soul, neither of you should carry this burden on your own --- talk to her parents, and check if there is some counsellor available through the school. Remind her that she is a far greater and stronger person than any cheat, and that it is him who should be feeling bad for being such a lousy person, not her. She deserves to have a better man in his life, and if she stays around, she will find him.
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