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26 Oct 2006

gf & gynae
my gf recently went to the gynae for the first time. she's only 19 and the gynae she went to was an older man. i'm upset because another man besides me has seen her vagina, even though he's a doctor, he's seen her and put his finger in her and felt and seen her breasts. why am i upset?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Sounds like a degree of jealousy, even of ownership. It's HER vagina, and for a checkup, for the benefit of her health, she needs the right sort of expert to examine her and re-assure and advse her. As these are HER parts, its interesting that you apparently don't feel any sense of trespass when YOU examine or touch them.
If its any use to you as re-assurance, I can remember well back in the days when I did some gynae, that it was the least sexual job one could do, not only because of the doctor's proper professional detachment, but because it was WORK ( which makes most things feel different than when you do the same thing for enjoyment --- a chef may not enjoy eating, so much ) ; and because of sheer quantity. Sexual organs can be much more of a big deal with there are only your own and one or two others in your life. When you see them and work with them all day, they become much less special. Takes much of the romance out of life --- and the real problem may be for the gynae's wife, rather than his patients !
And Foxybrown's response is a classic !
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