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14 Sep 2006

Grandfather's attitude
I am so absolutely furious I can explode. My daughter goes to my parents in law after school until hubby pick het up (sometimes onlu an hour later) Subsequently she helps my motherin law with lunch and making coffee etc - Mother in law's health is not good and can not help herself - doing hair, nails etc. So my daughter helps her a lot. Mother in law could not get to the bathroom quick enough and messed on the floor. My daughter - caring soul that she is - cleaned it up. While she was doing it father in law shouted at her saying that she is probably just doing it because she wants money. This is deffinately not the case. This is not the first time that when she helps that she gets "badmouthed" and it is hurting her a lot. How can I confront him without being rude. I am actually also prepared to be rude but I was raised to respect elders.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

I agree with TT, as they are HIS parents, have your husband talk with them ( maybe with you there too ) and explain why this is unacceptable. There's no need to be rude ( which w9ould be counter-productive ) but assertive. Maybe your husband can ask his dad to apologise to the girl, as his unkindness to her was apparently entirel uncalled for.
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