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14 Feb 2006

Green Monster
This morning my boyfriend gave me my gift and flowers etc.
Then his phone rang and he walked away from the car.
I could not hear him. When he got back he explained it was ADT Security.
I do not believe him.
Tonight I will check his phone.
What if he's deleted who called him, which he never does ?
I said to him why did you walk away, he said he could not hear.

No he's never given me reason to distrust him, Im just an insecure person.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Insecure, surely. But why was this morning especially a problem for you ? Be very careful about dragging bad expectations from your previous relationship, in which perhaps you were not suspicious enough, into this present relationship, in which you seem to be being too suspicious, or you could force what you fear to come true, when it would otherwise never happen. DO see a counsellor to work, through CBT, on these unrealistic and self-defeating expectations.
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