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26 May 2004

GUY'S PERSPECTIVE ON MONEY=MARRIGE
HI THERE! MY FIANCE AND I HAVE BEEN ENGAGED FOR 2YEARS AND 6 MONTHS. WE STAY IN A ABOVE AVERAGE CLASS AREA. HE STARTED HIS OWN COMPANY, WHICHISI STILL SMALL BUT GROWING. AND I DO BELIEVE WITH HIS DRIVE ( HE'S A WORKAHOLIC) HE WILL MAKE IT A HUGE SUCCES GIVIN SOME TIME. OUR WEDDING WAS PLANNED TO HAPPEN 2 YEARS AGO, BUT WE HAD TO CANCELL IT DUE TO , ACCORDING TO HIM, FINANCIAL PROBLEMS. WE HAVEN'T SET A NEW DATE YET, CAUSE HE NOW SAYS THAT HE WANTS TO COMPLETELY BY ABLE TO "PROVIDE" FOR ME BEFORE HE MARRIES ME. NOW MY POINT IS, WAS ELSE HAD HE BEEN DOING THE PAST TWO YEARS? DONT GET ME WRONG, I DO UNDERSTAND THAT WE NEED SECURITY, BUT WE ALL KNOW THAT VIEWED FROM A HUMAN PERSPECTIVE, WHEN WILL YOU EVER HAVE ENOUGH MONEY?! IS IT A GUY THING OR DOES HE JUST NOT WANT TO GET MARRIED TO ME?PLS GUYS, I NEED SOME INSIGHT INTO YOUR WAYS OF DOING THINGS!
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Hi Genie,
Well, I have treatd a few millionaires, and they never yet felt that they had enough money. Enough seems to be at least whatever-I-have-now plus ten percent. As Brownsuga points out, it'd hardly cost any more for you two to like together after marriage than it does already, apart from possible costs of the ceremony itself. But maybe he really doesn't want you to stint yourself and have any but the best wedding ? Then you can still have a civil mariage now, and a weding of the sort you both want, when you can afford that.
An indefinite postponement doesn't make sense.
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