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06 Aug 2007

Help??????????
Ive recently met someone, we have been going out for about two months, and we have become quite close, the problem is that on Friday night I caught him doing cocaine, I never said anything cause I actually wasnt too sure how to handle the situation, I was aware that he had a bit of a past withregards to drugs, but no one is perfect and we all have a past!!!

The thing is on Wednesday night we are going out for dinner, and I plan to talk to him about what happened, can someone please give me some advice on how to broach the subject lightly without becoming a bitch.....

I dont want to hurt him, and although this sounds stupid but i really like him, is there a way we can deal with this or sort it out
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Well, face the fact that he has a PRESENT with drugs, as well as a past ; and be aware that someone who is into drugs, tends to love them more than any human being in their life. It was fair enough not to rush to judge him on his past, but this is his present, and it doesn;t lookm good. There's nothing bitchy about simply calmly saying to him that you like him, but you cannot like his drug habits, and would prefer to go no further with the relationship. His long-term relationship with his drugs will take precedence until he stops the drugs, and stays stopped
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