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27 Apr 2004

Help me!
I'm 26 year old woman with a problem I cannot shake. I'm married to a absolutely wonderful husband that really supports me emotionally and in every other way. He is not the problem. I'm usually fine, just some days I feel like ending it all. I'm a Industrial & Orginisational Psychology student so I know a little about mental illnesses. At this moment again i'm feeling very down. What do I have to contribute to this world? All my friends and family usually come to me with their problems and it makes things harder for me. Now on top of my problems I have to worry about theirs. I've been to a Psychologist about 5 years ago, but it was as if she didn't or couldn't understand. I would like to end it all, take a handful of sleeping tabs and just never wake up, but I love my husband to much! Am I going crazy?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Dear Lin,
By 26, or even 36, none of us know what we're going to contribute to this world, we discover that as we go along, and none of us are without value. Indeed, in my experience, people who get as discouraged as you do, usually add more value to life than those who never ever have a blue moment.
You're not going crazy, but you really do sound significantly Depressed, wich is such a very treatable condition. Maybe you saw the wrong psychologist for you ; I'm surprized that she couldn't understand your grief, but some folks just dont manage to reach the same wavelength. I think you'd do better in the first place to see a Psychiatrist for an assessment, and if he/she finds significant Depression, try the effects of a good modern antidepressant for some months. Additionally, check with the faculty in psychology, to locate someone who practises the only form of psychotherapy with really good scientific credentials behind it's benefits, Cognitive-Behavioural / CBT, which would probably suit you rather well.
As you may know, both from personal experience and from your studies, Depression has really potent effects on skewing our manner of thinking, producing an elegant bias in which we notice and attend to almost entirely the negative aspects of life, and the negative aspects of even positive things, and constricts our ability to think out of the envelope of depression and gloom.
As you'll also learn, een when family and friends bring their problems to you, the art is to help them find their solutions to their problems, not to take onto yourself the full burden of all those problems as if they were your own. Not only is such a burdening cruel to the helper / therapist, but it actually very unhelpful to the person seeking help from you.
I am absolutely sure that you are going to make a significant contribution, to the field you will work in and to the lives of many other people, as you already do to important people like your husband. You deserve proper assessment and competent treatment, to ensure that you can ecover from this depression and get on with the god things you will discover you can do.
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