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26 Sep 2006

Help with my troubled mind.....
Dear Doc

I am going through a really tough time at the moment, my girlfriend of 3 and a half years decided we needed a break due to the fact that she wants to go overseas in the next few months, it hurt alot, but i can see the logic so im in the process of trying to move on.

The problem is, everytime i see something, touch something or go somewhere i used do with her, i become an emotional wreck, i am not one to cry, in act i never really beleived in crying, but for the last month and a half i have cried at work, in front of people, in the spa infront of many a tourist, it seems i am imploding bit by bit.

The killer to this situation is the facxt that i wanted to marry this girl, she was my dream girl, she told me so many a time, her friends still tell me she loves me and wants to be with me, just its the overseas issue that clouds her head, i have been told she is making a decision with her head not with her heart, and all of this news kills me.

I find myself sitting hoping that i that my life will be taken in a freak accident, i could never kill myself, but if someone or soehting would do it for me, i would be so much ahppier, i am so over world right now, im dying inside.......

So please if you could help me try sort my head out i would be trully appreciated.

Have a grea day,

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01 Jan 0001

Loss, especially if it is unexpected, can be very hard to deal with --- and you make it sound as though she may be parting with you to make her overseas trip easier, rather than perhaps respecting your feelings as they deserve to be respected. It does, indeed, sound as though she is thinking more materialistically than sensitively and considerately. Seeing a counsellor could really help you to cope better with this sad and discouraging situation. She may well, once she is overseas, see more clearly how much she cares for you and misses you. Sounds like you need to let her go, and she may come back to you. Like the old saying goes, if she doesn't come back, she never was yours anyway. And if she does --- you can be more convincingly together. You have a whole lot of good living to do, ahead of you
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