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21 Sep 2006

HIS CONFUSION... ME OR HIS EX?
Im not married but was supposed to get engaged last weekend after 4 years. My partner said that he loves me. But he has an ex girlfriend with a 5 year old son who suddenly pitch up from Mosselbaai when she heard we r getting engaged. She left him and went on with her live. She had a boyfriend all these years. She didnt want him to see his child because of me. Now she is suddenly single. No I think he wants her back because of his child. He told me he is so confused and he dont know what to do. He loves me but he has to think of his child. I've asked him if he still loves her, he said that he will always love her because they have a child together. She is a very difficult person. She doesnt want him to see the child because of me. I can see that he is very confused 'cause it didnt work between them 4 years ago. Will he make the right descision...and will I be the one who is heartbroken again? What must I do? I desperatly need advice...TODAY! iM ALWAYS the one that must leave and when he beg me to come back Im there without even thinking...Pls help
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

I don't see why he would suddenly want her back because of the child --- when he's had the child and apparently she has prevented him from seeing and knowing his child all the time ( by law, by the way, she is not entitled to keep the child from its father ). If he wants to go ahead with his relationship with you, he can go to court and ensure that she must continue to allow him proper access to the child, anyway. She is just not allowed to keep the child away from him out of spite.
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