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17 Oct 2006

What is this disease called "bipolar", it is not only destroying my daughter's life, but mine and my family's. She is 22, lives with me, so does my grandson (2 years old) and I cannot deal with this anymore. She has been diagnosed with bipolar, she takes medicine, but if the medicine helps, God help us if she should stop taking it! I have clearly not been informed enough when I was advised that she is bipolar. She has been staying with us for a year, I went through hel raising her, and now I am going through hel trying to support her and help her as an adult. She has had six boyfriends in the last year, 5 jobs (not one were she's been longer than a month). She has rage attacks, she attacks me, she is irresponsible, careless, hopeless, she has no feelings at all, she acts like a parasite who uses me and the rest of my family at her whim, she is an unfit mother and I am constantly stressed out to leave my grandson in her care, I have forgotten the many times I have been phoned to go and get him whereever she left him for another "night out". I do not even know who to turn to for help as I have no idea what I am dealing with, and the information available on bipolar helps nothing! All I know is I am losing it, I am starting to hate my own child, to the point that I sometimes think it would be better for us all if she was dead. What do I do?
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01 Jan 0001

Check elsewhere in this site, and searcgh it, as we have loads of material about Bipolar Disorder --- it's what used to be called Manic-Depressive. Maybe she has some degree of personality disorder as well as Bipolar, judging from your description. Can't you ask to see her shrink, for more information specifically about her and managing her ? If she is not receiving proper care, maybe she could be compulsorily admitted for more careful treament --- and if she is unfit and perhaps dangerous in the context of caring for her child, the welfare authorities can act to give custody of the child to someone else, like yourself.
And I agree with kat --- being Bipolar is unplasant, but it is NO excuse for behaving like this or for being so ungrateful and unpleasant. She HAS to take proper responsibility for her own life.
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