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22 Dec 2009

i cant be alone
i recently found out that my husband has been having an affair for three years and has a child with this woman. When i approached him he showed no remorse, he wasnt sorry and nor did he want to stay. He offered me no alternatives, counselling nothing and he moved out a week later and he wants nothing to do with me. Fair enough but his life moved on three years ago and mine only now. the problem is that i have developed the most frightening fear of being alone - i cant bear it because i never had a problem like this before - the fear is so great it eats me and i have to find someone to be with. Why am i feeling like this
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01 Jan 0001

Hello C,
What he did was awful, and not to show any convincing remorse makes it worse he sounds ruthless in his infidelity. Having been hurt so badly by someone you trusted, and at home where you felt most safe, maybe these are some of the reasons why you now feel at risk at home, even though it's highly unlikely anything else bad will happen to you. It would be adviseable to see a shrink as soon as practical for assessment and a discussion of treatment options, as, for instance, early CBT may help to settle this fear before it becomes entrenched. And consult a good lawyer to make sure your rights are protected as far as possible
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