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09 Oct 2006

I feel violated and betrayed..
My bf is gone on business for 3 weeks, this week being the last. This past weekend, I went out with a friend and we bumped into one of my ex's who was away overseas for two years and just returned two weeks ago. We did not have much time to catch up, so he came to my house on saturday morn. So me, him and my sister went to the shopping complex just round the corner from my house, we went in his car cause there were other cars parked behind mine.

While we were standing around waiting for our take-aways to be ready one of my bf's friends came out of one of the shops and immediately phoned my bf and told him that I was driving around with some strange guy..so when we got our food and got into the car to go home my bf phoned me on my cell and asked whether I drove to the complex with my own car - trying to catch me out..I said no and I'd phone him back when I get home.

I know who this person is that felt the need to phone my bf after he saw me standing around with a guy, also he walked past the car where my sister was waiting and she saw him and heard everything he said. I've never given my bf a reason not to trust me, in fact he's the one that always encourages me to visit with guy friends, which I NEVER do, cause 'I trust you', now the one time I decide to do so this happens..

He lied to me and said that this friend who phoned him is not even in town and last night he confirmed that this friend was in town before he could think about what he was saying..I can't believe that he would lie to me like this and put me through such a childish test..it now feels like everyone is covering for his stupid friend. This is one of his friend that I don't know that well, if it were any other one of his friends they would at least have come up to me to get their facts straight.

I'm so angry with my bf, it now feels like all the times I tell him how much I love him he just hears blah blah blah, I mean are my words that empty to him..I told my bf that I am going to confront this friend the next time I see him, he replied that hell would break loose if I dared to do that..It's so childish!!!..my bf and I are both 23..

What can I do...?
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01 Jan 0001

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