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26 May 2004

I'm tired of all of this

I am really sick and tired of my husband and his affair. I had enough I am busy with a divorce. He told me that he already seen a lawyer but he is not working and he do not have money I am the only one that works. He is still staying by me, I think he has nowhere to go and his bywyf is staying by other people. Last night was enough. He asked me to look on his back their is something when I open his shirt and saw the scratch mark(nails penetrating) I was so shocked I just closed up and walked away. He asked me what's wrong I told him he must look at his back he went and look and never say a word. Enough is enough if do not want to divorce him I will do it. I cannot carry on like this. He do not speak about a divorce or anything else. If I asked him he said he is finish talking. Now I am tired he must leave and never come back. Cybershrink what must I do just ignore him and go on with my life until the divorce is final.
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01 Jan 0001

Hello again Suzette,
That he has nowhere else to say is his problem, not yours --- he could have thought of that before embarking on the affair. Of course he knew about the marks on his back, and enjoyed hurting you. Talk to your lawyer, and check on the quickest way to throw him out of the house, as his remaining there is simply adding to your costs and enabling him to continue hurting you.
Let him stay with his ghastly girlfriend --- it's not your problem where he stays. And in the divorce, even if he can't afford to pay you any maintenance right now, seek to include in the agreement that when he does start earning, he should pay you something, however small the amount, to remind him that being so cruel to other people DOES cost him something in the end.
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