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28 Jan 2010

In Laws
Im 29 staying with my fiance planning to get married later this year(I dont think I want to),the problem started last year when his family brought his cousin to look for school(tertiary) they said she will find a place at school she didnt and ended up staying with us then she left.This year its a boy and this time I was not asked I just saw the boy and Fiancee said he will look for a place he' s lazy we had a fight yesterday about him not washing the dishes and taking out the trash forget about cleaning.Fiancee said Im selfish because I dont like his family.Is it fair sometimes I feel like going bck home.Help Im depressed
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

ou're not bein selfish for objecting to his family using you as an unpaid servant to care for their various lazy relatives. But if you're staying in his home, its up to him who else might stay there. Recognize that this pattern is very unlikely to get any better after mariage, and maybe you should be warned to seriouslty reconsider the whole idea.
I hope you're sad and disappointed rather than depressed. Why not go home ? Don't you deserve a better man and a better situation than this ?
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