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16 Oct 2006

IN LOVE WITH TWO MEN!!!!!!!!!
HI ALL...THIS IS NO GOOD NEWS.

OK.

MY BOYFRIEND OF THREE YEARS CHEATED ON ME LAST YEAR DECEMBER, I FOUND THEM RED HANDED WITH HIS COLLEAGUE. APPARENTLY THEY HAVE BEEN GOING OUT FOR FIVE YEARS.

BEFORE I FIND OUT, WE USED TO FIGHT A LOT, I MEAN ABOUT EVERYTHING AND HE WOULD CONTANTLY BLAME ME FOR EVERYTHING THAT WENT WRONG, I ACCUSED ME OF CHEATING, HE NEVER TOLD ME HE LOVED ME ANYMORE. HE USED TO MAKE BE FEEL GUILTY. I DID EVERYTHING FOR HIM, I GAVE HIM MONEY WHEN HE WAS DESPERATE. ALL HAPPEND BEFORE I LEARNED THE TRUTH.

AFTER I COUGHT HI, HE APOLOGIESED AND STARTED TREATING BETTER. BEING MORE ROMANTIC AND WE WOULD GO OUT TO THE RESORT MOST OF THE WEEKENDS. HE BOUGHT ME CLOTHES AND WAS VERY MUCH SUPPORTIVE, EMOTIONALLY etc....

THE PROBLEM IS I CANNOT FORGET THE WHOLE THING, I HAVE TRIED AND TRIED BVUT IT STILL HOUNTS ME... THE TRUST FOR HIM HAS DETERIORATED, I DONT FEEL HIM ANYMORE. LAST MONTH HE WAS DIGNOSED WITH STD INFECTIONS AND I WAS STILL THERE WITH HIM. HE DENIED THAT HE SLEPT WITH ANYONE AND BLAMED ME. THAT CREATED A LACK OF SELF-ESTEEM FOR ME AND I AM NOT VERY COMFORTABLE WITH

I GOT ANOTHER JOB IN MARCH THIS YEAR, I MET SOMEONE (HE RESIGNED NOW AND RUNS HIS OWN COMPANY). HE HAS BEEN THERE FOR ME EVERSINCE I JOINED HERE. HE KNOWS HOW TO LIFT ME UP WHEN I AM DOWN. HE DOESN'T JUDGE ME, HE IS A BREATH OF FRESH AIR.

NOW I FEEL LIKE I AM INLOVE WITH HIM VERY MUCH IN LOVE WITH LOVE HIM BECAUSE WE NEVER ARGUE, HE ADMITS WHEN HE HAS DONE A MISTAKE AND MAKES UP FOR IT. I KNOW I AM NOT SUPPOSE TO COMPARE, BUT MY LIFE WITH MY STEADY BOYFRIEND IS NOT PLEASANT ANYMORE. WE ARE CONTATLY FIGHTING AND WE WOULD SPEND DAYS WITHOUT TALKING TO EACH OTHER.

HE WANTS TO MARRY ME BUT I DONT THINK I CAN, I DONT THINK I CAN SPEND MY LIFE WITH HIM, BUT I LOVE HIM SO MUCH IT HURTS.

I WANT TO LEAVE HIM BUT I CANT....PLEASE HELP
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