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02 Apr 2003

Is he a sex maniac?
My husband and I had an affair 7 years ago, left our spouses and got married. I would like to know if I am too conservative and whether he is right that I should "catch a wake up". 6 years ago he took pornographic photographs of me while I was sleeping. We almost broke up and this incident just added to me not being able to trust him. Through the years, he's been peeping at our neighbours (with binoculours) all hours during the night, even climbing on the wall to have a better look into their bedroom. He feels that we should have sex every night, but I cannot do it!!! Two weeks after my baby was born (by caesarian) we were back at it because I'm so scared he'll cheat on me. Two days ago I discovered that he's taken photos of me again and I'm feeling absolutely devastated!!!

I don't trust him because I've found escort agency telephone numbers on his cell, prostitutes' business cards etc. etc. Yet, I've never found any evidence of him cheating on me, but I keep getting this "gut feel" that he's up to something.

Am I crazy and am I married to a maniac???

Please help me, I am so desperately unhappy....
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Dee, what on earth might be crazy about you, for finding this lout's misconduct disgusting ? OK, sexual attitudes have loosened up somewhat in recent years --- but Nobody in Any culture respects or approves of a grubby Peeping Tom who commits what is actually a criminal act by spying on his neighbours, or who abuses your right to privacy, by taking pictures of you which you find offensive, and without your permission and consent.
BY the spying on neighbours, and the escort agencies, he is probably already chating on you, so there's no point in feeling you have to play along with him, to prevent what has already happened.
Why would you want to stay with a many like this ? Have you considered discussing the situation with a group like POWA that advises abused women, and perhaps taking some legal advice ? If anyone reports him for his Peeping Tom activities, and the police catch him at it, he would be arrested and prosecuted, so this isn't a light matter.
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