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11 Jan 2010

is he cheating
yesterday my husband asked my son (8 years) to get his tablets from his travel suitcase. my son came down with the bag and something else.
I did not see it but i then heard my husband asking my son why did he touch the other stuff.
When I asked what it was my husband said it was his stuff , when I asked that i see it he refused. my son said it was 6 /7 square small packets and it felt soft and had Love written on it , I asked my husband if he had condoms in his bag , he got angry said he was shocked that I even thought that, never the less a screaming match ensued. He the left for about 15 minutes came back about have an hour later I insisted he tell me what he was hiding he took out 5 packets of GU gels some energy different colors one said love enhanced on it teh rest were just energy gels.
I asked why didnt he just show me in the first place he said it was becos , i had already made up my mind and he was insulted that I had reached such a ugly conclusion.

I asked my son if that is what he saw first he said no then he said maybe becos he did not hold it for a long time.

Strange enough my marriage seemed fine , my husband is very loving , attentative and all of that but I still think he is lying am I jumping to conclusions or is he cheating ?

Please help.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

You may be jumping to conclusions, but his behaviour was indeed very suspicious, including the delay before showing you what he claimed had been in his bag. "energy gels" are of course quackery and rubbish, and one wonder why he would need them, at home or while travelling.
But the only solution in such situations is calm discussion between you, possibly with the assistance of a marriage counsellor.
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