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20 Jan 2006

IS it time to leave
Hi all

My bf and I together for so many years now, He stil hasnt told his family (who he lives with) about us. I cant go to his house. He has dinner with them every weekend and just ups and leaves me alone. He used to have this female friend who used to take up so much of his time I admit i became insanely jealous, I reached a point where I couldnt take it because everytime he left my place he would go to her,every secon we were not together he would be with her. I wanted to leave and he promised that he would stop speaking to her. yesterday I saw his cell phone statement and there were call to her number,

I confronted him about it and he went completely balistic. I have never asked for anything in the 4 years we have been together except that he be honest with me. he said that it was nothing and he dialed the number by mistake once.

I never ? him about where he is, who he is with, he comes when wants to, leaves when he wants and goes where wants.
He spends more time with his best friend than he does with me.
He promises that he loves me sooooo much and want to marry me.
I do anything he asks,
Yesterday he said that I am am too controlling, I want to know every detail of every second of his day, Which is not true, somedays I am so busy that I dont even speak to him for 2 days at a time. so how am on his case all the time.
even his best friend says that he is talking crap because they are always together and I never phone to ? his whereabouts.

I love him but I have reached a point now where i just cant fight anymore.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

I don't follow him at all --- he really loves you and wants to marry you --- but has kept your existence secret from his close family for years ? What;s in it for you in this relationship ? It sounds as though he's content with what he gets from it, and has no intention of proceeding to marriage
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