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18 Sep 2006

Just discovered my hubby has a baby girl
Hi all,
My hubby was never faithful since I met him 8years ago he impregnated one lady same time as me,our son is 5 years old and he had to accept it after a long fight ane we get married in 2001, since then we had ups and downs and we went for theraphy together I tried hard to make things work but all in vain always asking forgiveness and I foragve him. now I discovered today again he had a baby girl who turns two this year and promised the lady he will marry her. maybe he is having 5 known kids with different mothers excluding my son, I think now he is still cheating as I got signs on his phone that he is seeing some woman. my pretty people how do you handle this I really hate him I want my self out of this monster I can't really take his cheating and all lots of babies.Thanks
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01 Jan 0001

A significant part of the problem seems to be that YOU tried to make things work, but it doesn't sound as though he tried at all. You also illustrate why I think the trite, over-simplified guff we keep hearing about some invented and spurious need to "forgive" people who in no way genuinely regret what they did, so that you merely make it easier for them to err again, is so unfortunate. A guy who has, including you, 8 kids with 6 women is wildly and chronically selfish and irresponsible. How sad that so many women fell for this rat.
Get good legal advice, dump him but get a court to order him to pay maintenance. THen ( once your maintenance is fixed and ordered, advise the other women to do the same. If he starts trying to pay for the children he has so irresponibly fathered, he wont be able to afford to fool and impregnante so many other women. He deserves no pity or consideration whatever, as he has apparently never felt any for others
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