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14 Aug 2006

Just me
Short version: I am impatient, Im a perfectionist, Im inquisitive & this is where my problem starts. My boyfriend lost his mom in June 2006 and he changed a lot. He always used to tell me (even before her death) that the above mentioned characteristics are a problem, well I started working on them but once in a while I slip back. Well he decided a month ago that he will be moving back to his moms place (as the house is now his) to sort his feelings out and "get hold of himself". My first reaction was that I threw my toys out of the cot and asked all the questions in the world why... one of my problems (inquisitive). Now I realised that even by me protesting it is not going to change his mind. I accepted his wishes and told him it was fine. Well last night he took a few of his things and left. I asked him if he was breaking up with me and he said no, all he needs is just some space and time to be alone and I will still see him even though we will not be living together. Even after he told me this, why does it feel as if I lost him knowing that he will only be away for a month then I will be moving in with him. How do I start working on my problems, because I really love this man and would move heaven and earth.
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CyberShrink

01 Jan 0001

Not just inquisitive, a you describe your reaction to his reasonable request for time out to re-think himself ---but rather controlling/ See a counsellor, to work on the personal problems you have identified --- and you could make excellent use of the month ahead
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