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10 Jan 2006

lack of motivation
how to begin. well - i come from a family that never speaks about problems or feelings. i was a melodramatic kid always wanting to "TALK". got married two years ago - he isnt a communicative person. been depressed a lot lately, my emotions had reached this mad peak, i had breakdowns which went unnoticed by my husband. i find it hard to get out of the house and find motivation - i just wish i had some support system or motivation in me.
the emotions got so hard to deal with - being alone - i started taking pills that induce drowsiness. i am numb and even though i dont "like" it, i prefer it.
i think what i wanted was some help, and motivation. some great advice. ok here i go putting pressure on everyone. hehe.
i dont think i can cope i feel like this weak person who doesnt know how to survive in the big world.
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01 Jan 0001

Hello numb,
Some people are probably well suited by one of the verklempt families that never acknowledges problems or feelings ; some may well react to it by enhancing their natural tendency towards the meoldramatic, in an attempt, which usually fails, to get due attention from the buttoned up ones. If you then marry someone, however nice, who is also of the silent rather than communicative sort, the discomfort may continue. And when one can say that you had breakdowns unnoticed by your husband, its clear that a pattern is being repeated. Sounds like you've tried some ways to enhance your coping, which haven't been very useful. CBT-style counselling, focussing on improving your self-image, helping you to recognize how likeable you are and to appreciate yourself, to be less needy of support and affirmation from your husband or anyone else, could help a lot.
You're not a weak person, but a person who feels weak --- and counselling could change that negative self-image and that negative self-fulfilling prophecy.
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