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17 Nov 2008

Marriage of Hell
We’ ve been together for 8 years and married for 2 years and had the wedding celebration last December. I paid for my own wedding with the help of my family.
He never contributed anything on the expenses and he kept on saying “  Eish you and your wedding”  during the arrangements. And he had about R15000 in his account but he drank it all without even buying his underpants.
He paid R1000 for the lobola and the other R2000 was paid on our wedding day.
As per our culture the wedding was suppose to take place in his mothers as well but they said they don’ t have money so it only happens in my mothers.
The morning of the wedding he went to his mothers place and my family and I were all scared that he might not come back and we all went Thanx God to see him back and he was very drunk.
I stay in Joburg and he is in Limpopo and I think the distance did save our marriage in a way because it was worse now.
There was no honeymoon
No money for me to come back to Joburg after the wedding
No phone calls from him after the wedding.

We stay in his mothers house and the mother does not want me.
I didn’ t go there for the past 2 months and I am not even sure if I want to go or want.
He once came to Joburg but told his family that he is going to visit a friend.

My family says I should forget about him and move on but I am not ready
It’ s been 3 years since I am in Jozi and he only came twice.
When I go to Limpopo I must always borrow money to come back and pay it back when i get paid.
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01 Jan 0001

You express yourself so well ! I hope h's bought some underpants by now. Sad that he saw it as "YOUR wedding", and thought drinking was mote important than helping. It really sounds as though he and his family seem to be trying to deny the fact of the marriage. He really hasn't provided you with anything of what any real man, in any culture, is expected to provide for his wife.
You know what you need to do --- he should be ashamed of himself ( and so should his family ) but they won't recognize their faults. You deserve so very much more than this. Leave him in the hell of his own making, and you rejoin the world and find someone who loves you.
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