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11 Sep 2007

Married but In love with another man
I am a married woman, but i am in love with my ex-boss who has been estranged from me for 3 years since i last worked for him-out of the blue he sent me an e-mail asking me if we could meet-he came to my place and we talked for awhile and then he invited me for lunch to his place and kissed me straight away, and i responded without hesitation because i still had feelings for him and since then we have been having an affair for the last 3 months and when i told him last week how i felt about him-he told me to please loose the feelings cause he cant deal with that now-he is very busy and he is going on an overseas holiday. I love this man and i have since we met, however i feel that how paths always seems to cross at the wrong time in our lives. HELP!!!!!
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Isn't it extremely obvious to you that he has been merely using you sexually, when it suited him, and dropped you as soon as he found a better option ? What is loveable about a man who respects you and your marriage so very little ? Chemistry schmemistry --- that['s an excuse. You mean lust, and that never excuses such bad behaviour.
Rather consider marriage counselling to work on the problems you experience in your marriage, or consider divorce and then deveoping your life as a person free from obligations to vows you made.
Don'\t be surprised by the anger other readers expressed --- many of them have been terribly hurt by selfish and unthinking women like you or by selfish men like him.
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