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13 Aug 2007

monster taking over my child
I'm so sad and angry at the same time. i'm a stay at home mom of two boys,aged 7 and 4. My husand went overseas for 5 days on a business trip and i couldn't go because my 7 year is attending school. As from 4 days ago,his behaviour changed so much that i do not regonise my own child. He refuses to do homework,to eat or to take a bath. He started to yell and hitting me with a toy when i asked him to take a bath.He even started to bite me and his younger brother.You would say that he misses his dad,but he does this type of behaviour when his father lefts the door in the mornings. It is getting worse by the day and i went to my doctor today and he told me that i have developed such high bloodpressure he is afraid that i will get a hartattact.I do not know what to do anymore....that is such a understatement!!!! I've tried everthing. I'm calm,try to sweettalk,but nothing seems to make a difference. Taking his stuff doesn't even bother him. Punishment makes no difference.
My other child is bliss. His friendly,gives huges and kisses and is a joy to have. What have i done wrong with the other child. I never try to play one child off against the other and love them equally.I just want my lovely seven year old back!!Please!!!
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Take medical treatment for you high blood pressure, including some personal counselling to help you to calm down better --- and see the psychologist to plan a specific way of reacting to the boys' awful behaviour, so that he learns to behave properly ( like Supernanny and Litle Angels on DSTV Channel 40 ).
Don't assume that you have done anything wrong with this child, something different is at play here. Why not recognize all that you have done right with the other boy, indeed with both of them.
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