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08 Feb 2013

My bloed kook!
My blood is boiling … 
I have been married for 6 years now, in all the six years my husband has never worked a day. He keeps going for odd interviews but nothing comes out of them. He is very good in investing time on useless ventures. I have been patient with him since he says he is trying. He only has a car in his name, everything in the house is mine.( not sure how he feels about that as a man) , but what really irritates me about him is that he is selfish and lazy. He sits , farts, eat and watch TV the whole day, DAY-IN-DAY_OUT.
When I leave with the baby in the morning he is already up watching .When I get hom , he is still sitting watching TV, then the struggle of the remote with the baby starts as all he wants to watch is sports and discovery channel. I cook, bath and feed the baby while he continues sitting. I put the baby to sleep while he is still watching TV. I swear there is a whole on that couch, pity I cannot check as he is always sitting there. He also comes to bed way after mid-night daily.
If God forbids he decides to lift a finger to do something, he disrupts the whole house, last night after 3 weeks he decided he will change the bulb in the bathroom. He choose the time when am trying to feed the baby. This simply means I have to wait as the baby is now intrigued by the activity in the bathroom, this messes up his eating time , bath time and sleeping time by a good hour. I am not saying he should not have changed the bulb, my problem is what was he doing the whole day! The stupid bulb has been out for 3 weeks, could he not wait one more night or wait until the baby is asleep. Considering I have to wake up in the morning and go to work and the poor baby has to sleep at least 10 hours. If I ask, I do not know what I want, he is trying to help around the house!
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CyberShrink

01 Jan 0001

Maybe you can get a child and lazy bum-proof lock on the TV, so he cant watch it at all when you;re not at home.
THE LIGHT-BULB STORY sounds like a tactic, to make his helping so unpleasant you'll stop asking him to do anything.
I agree with Jenna and the others. Go on strike till he gets a job and keeps it, pays his way, shares household chores ---till then, NO cooking for him, no washing, and find a way to make the TV inoperative while you're out.
And stop arguing falsely that it'd be terrible for the child to grow up without her father --- that's exactly what's happening now, and he is contributing nothing of value to her now.
Its time this king faced a revolution. Having NO man in yur home would be very much better than having this bum.
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