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07 Jun 2004

My dad is a pshyco
I've been chatting to this guy on the net, we met in the chat room. It was fun but I didn't have any intensions of meeting the guy. He told me how he looked like, his size and what he'd do to me. He was married and in his early 50's. Yesterday I asked him to send me a pic of himself and when I received that pic, I got sick. It was my father. That was so disgusting. I slept at a friends place last night cause I couldn't face him. Sies man, how can my own dad do things like that? and on top of that he was bad mouthing my mother. Now I know all their bedroom secrets.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Hi Leanne,
Assuming that this is not a hoax message, well, this is of course upsetting and surprising for you --- but you've hardly been a good little girl, either. You were flirting with this older guy apparently with no intention of actually meeting him, though presumably giving him the impression that you would. And apparently you were entirely happy chatting to him about "his size and what he would do to me" --- UNTIL you discovered who he was. So it was OK for any other older man to think or do "things like that", EXCEPT your dad ?
Remember, to, that most people online are pretending to be someone else, or someone more than they really are. ( Who were you pretending to be ? ) So you may not have discovered as many "secrets" as you think, except about his imagination and fantasies. And maybe he wasn' so much badmouthing your mother, as trying to convince this girl on the web that he was free to meet up with her, and not tied to his wife. And now he knows more about your fantasies, too.
You don't mention how old you are, either. If you choose to bring this up and tell him about it, it will surely be highly embarrassing to you both, and will change your relationship, potentially in an unpleasant way, so you might be better to chalk it up to experience, and forget about it. Don't be tempted to get all Holier-Than-Thou about this, and scold him for being a Dirty Old man, when you were busy being a Dirty Young Woman. And what do you think itm would do to your mother to find out all this about BOTH of you ?
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