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02 Mar 2010

My friends have problem but I dont....
I''ve recently started dating someone after taking a break for about 3years. We have been together for a very short period. In the 3yrs I have become a very independant person and I am also a single parent. I run my home like any other parent and ensure that there is enough for my child. My new boyfriend has been coming over and when he does its normally after work and sometimes his visits coincide with my daughter and I having supper. When this does happen I wouldnt think twice about offering him a plate of food. He is a very healthy person and eats a lot of fruit and when he comes over he normally eats the fruit. I dont have issues with feeding anyone, and my lifestyle has not chaged I am still able to buy the same things and still live a relatively good life. However my friends say that I am allowing the new man to take advantage of me by feeding him. Now I dont understand this. We''ve been together for 6 weeks and they tell me that I should ask him to contribute to my grocery bill. I think this is ridiculous because when I go over to his house I eat whatever is there. I know that this may not be an issue for most but i cant understand what my friends are getting at. Am I allowing my boyfriend to take advantage of me, because I certainly dont think that this is the case.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

I don't see a problem if his fruit-devouring visits haven't become a habit, if they don't deprive you or your child at all, and if he varies the pattern by entertaining her and yourself as well, and sometimes bringing some extra fruit ny himself.
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