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12 Sep 2006

new relationship
I am involved with this guy for about 2 months. We are both divorced and have kids. The relationship is doing well, but there is one problem. When he gets stressed or feel upset he shuts me out totaly which makes me feel unwanted and confused. We were friends for a long time before we became a couple and we also consulted with the kids( asking their permission and how they will feel about it). I think I love him and my emotions is in overload at the moment regarding us. His ex cheated on him and ended up marrying the guy, mine also cheated on me and I still feel insecure about myself. When I am with him I am fine, when I am not I start to wonder what is he up to? Is it normal. He is sensitive to my needs and treats me well and the kids like him alot. I do I come accross without sounding needy and pressure. We both want us to work out and we are taking things slowly. ( step by step). I want to explain that he shuts me out and makes me feel that i am something on the side? I think that he is also insecure and scared. O and the sex part, I am still shy to tell him I need him ( you know) etc. We passed that stage and our first time was special. We seriously need to communicate but I am scared and when I am with him I battle to tell him how I feel. It is just his problem of shutting me out?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Relationship counselling, surely ?
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