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03 May 2004

not a serious prob just want some friendly advice please
my 21st birthday is coming up and i didnt want to do anything for it, my mom roped me into having a party at her house cos "i cant not do anything as you only turn 21 once"

I made a guest list and invited my b/f's dad who is like my dad too, we get along very well, the problem is i dont get along with his 17 year old brother, and neither does my 17 year old brother. I know he will want to bring his friends with him, but we were at a party together last week and one of his friends was so drunk that when i drove him home he threw up in my car!! I dont want these people at my party and i dont want them in my moms house (i dont live with my parents) because i know they are going to break things and probably start a fight with my brother ( who is huge and would probably end up breaking alot of bones!)

My b/f is insisting that if i invite his dad i MUST invite his brother and the other boy who is living with them ( i wasnt going too) I understand that its poliet for me to invite them and its taken that if i invite dad the kids must come too but i really dont want them to ruin the party!
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01 Jan 0001

Hi Buns,
Actually, in my experience, some older women I know have managed to turn 21 several times over ! However...
If you get along so well with your b's dad, can't you discuss this with him and say that you don't want the 17-year-old brother or his friends to come to your party, and maybe even explain your reasons ( though the mere fact that you don't want them there should be enough ) --- it's not compulsory to invite JimBob, nor even to hire him a baby-sitter ! There is absolutely no requirement whatsoever within politeness or etiquette that if you invite one person, you must automatically invite everyone else who lives in the same house --- what nonsense ! Tell your bf he ought to read a bit about politeness and etiquette, and that the kids are to be left behind, whether he likes it or not --- and if he loves you, he should have no problem with that. But chat to his dad too.
It is VERY BAD MANNERS indeed for your bf to insist that his nauseating kid brother must come to any party with him
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