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09 Feb 2006

Not as depressed as I thought I would be
My mom died a week ago, and since then I have been very calm and collected. My husband and I have made alot of the arrangements concerning the funeral and cremation, leaving my father, brother and sister to grieve and move on. I have of course cried when I hear certain things or see certain things, but the tears never last very long, and of course my mom's funeral was very emotional, but that also didn't last very long. I thought I would be more like my sister who cries constantly and is still very depressed. I was closer to my mom than any of the others, but have adjusted easily to her absence. Is this normal, is this my way of dealing with my loss, or could I expect a total breakdown in the near future? Alot of people in my family and friends have expressed worry over my lack of emotion and my ability to just move on so quickly after my mother's death.
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cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

The ways in which we show grief are very individual, and no indication of how much you loved the person you lost. Also, some of us repond with more emotional numbing in the early days or weeks, especially if we are the person who HAS to stay calm enough to make the various arrangements ; and feel more strongly later on. I wouldnt expect any breakdown, but if you should find yourself more troubled by the loss later on, you might then profit from seeing a counsellor.
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